The past few days have really been a roller coaster ride. Margot’s father has not been doing well and the fight with cancer has really taken its toll on his system both physically and mentally.
Sunday night we got the call that he was bleeding and his blood pressure kept falling pretty low. All night Margot and Dennis were on the phone with doctors and family trying to figure out what to do. Finally, her brother ended up taking their dad into the hospital ER for evaluation and he ended up being admitted for a few days. During that stay he received a blood transfusion and was discharged Tuesday.
Wednesday night he had the same symptoms and although not as severe, equally scary. Margot spoke with the doctor who said that her dad could wait til morning for an appointment. So he ended up going in Thursday morning to see the doctor and get blood levels. They showed that he needed yet another blood transfusion which is planned for today.
Last night at 4am Margot’s brother got a call from a very scared father who was lonely and really needed to have someone around. I think his fear at this point is that he will die and not be surrounded by people he loves and cares for.
At this point we’re trying to figure out a game plan for the upcoming days and weeks. Margot’s brother is taking today off and planning on taking their dad in for the blood transfusion and possibly talking to the doctor about moving the surgery scheduled for March 6th to an earlier date so that he will stop being in so much pain. Basically, the surgery involves taking part of the colon out (the part that’s causing the bleeding) and then reattaching the colon together. However, for the recovery time her father would need an ileostomy which would need to be changed and cared for so that the area can heal.
Right now the plan is for Margot to head to New York tonight or tomorrow. We are looking into her either taking the luxury bus up to the city that offers wi-fi and drops her off in Manhattan. The other option is for us to all go and for Margot and Graem to leave Sunday and me to stay a few extra days and take care of their dad.
Margot’s stressed about work because there’s so much going on and it’d be equally hard to pass on the information to other people at the firm. Plus, she’d much rather use time to take care of her dad pre- and post-surgery when she’s really needed. Plus, Graem has daycare Monday and Tuesday and since I don’t work…it just makes sense that I take over a little bit.
Margot’s brother has been amazing through all of this and I know it’s been emotionally and physically draining for him. Not to mention, he has a job and has had to call in to go to appointments and take care of their dad.
If you’re a prayer or a meditator….please send Margot’s family a positive thought or prayer for the upcoming days and weeks. I can’t imagine it’s going to get much easier any time soon.
